Another way I change my children's hearts is to see what changes I have to make in myself.  If a relationship is suffering, it is usually a two person problem.  So, if I feel disconnected from my child, I take a good hard look at what I can do to change myself, motivate myself, and inspire myself.  In short, I try to see how I can live better so that I can inspire my child to live better.  In the past this has even required a new way of communicating to my family.  So far, this approach to changing hearts has been a big blessing for myself and my family. 

        If I am going to inspire my children to do the four basic skills or speak calmly etc. I have to require myself to do those things too.  Cause and Effect remember.  Being the self government example will cause increased self government in the home.  Cause and Effect =The Biggest Teacher.

       Today a good friend, Rachael DeMille, said to me, "Nicholeen, you live deliberately!" 

     Yes I do.  I talk about where I am going and where my family is going with my family.  I talk about how we communicate and how we can improve.  No subject is off limits.  No issue is too touchy.  I am dedicated to improving myself and my family; this requires "living deliberately" every day.