"I don't remember..."
"Mom, I don't remember what home looks like, but I do remember what you look like."
This morning, my four year old son woke me up with these words. I was amazed that in less than two weeks Porter had forgotten what our home in Tooele, Utah looked like. He has lived in the house his whole life.
While thinking about this statement, I realized how profound his observation was. People forget things quickly. They tend to feel like whatever the "NOW" feels like or looks like is what life has always been like. This is why many people don't really notice change after the first day or two.
I tell everyone who takes my class to go home and write down their 20 year vision for their family. I tell them to tell the vision to their family and talk about it. I say to constantly remind your family about this vision.
My son's statement about not remembering home is exactly why we have to constantly remind our families what our vision looks like. They will forget in a week or so if it isn't ever mentioned at home, and soon it will seem like there never was a vision because there isn't one right now.
After talking to my four year old about what his room looks like and what other things in our house look like he is now able to see home even though he isn't there yet. Now he is really excited to go home!