Many people ask me when they should start teaching their children self government skills. It is never too early to start talking in a deliberate, describing way or to teach the word "okay." Even the words "disagree appropriately" can be understood by most youngsters.
My little almost 3 year old just asked if she could "disagree appropriately." She has not yet been asked to do this, she is just listening and learning from her big brothers. All of the sudden I realized what big words those are for such a little person.
...yes but how do you get them to work? My oldest (5yrs) always has to get get a drink or suddenly is tired or has a tummy ache when ever she hears the word “work” or “clean up.” It’s too “boring” she says.
I am not about to make work “fun” for her because it isn’t always fun thought the rewards of work are.
But how do you teach that to a 5 year old?
My two youngest children are best friends, and play a lot with each other. It is so fun to see them enjoy each other. This summer we have noticed that they are getting a bit too much play lately though. The sun comes up and someone is at our door asking to play. The children do their chores and run outside. They would stay there day after day, all day, if I didn't ever call them in.
The other day my husband and I noticed some very distracted behaviors. My six year old was showing off a lot and acting a lot more "crazy" than usual. He was also trying to be the "funny guy" by popping off. We looked at each other and both knew something needed to change
"I came across your ideas on the LDSEHE website, and have been so inspired by all of it. I'm starting to read your book, hoping to fill in a few holes. I really like your idea for Friday family movie nights as your one source of TV. How do you make selections for that night? Do you have a list of movies you would recommend?"
You are right. We have a family TV watching policy to help our family not get bound by television. Our policy is that we don't watch TV unless it is a movie on Friday family movie night.
Can parents actually be too soft? Isn't love and affection always the answer? If a parent isn't being soft aren't they being angry?
I often have parents ask me about children who are really emotional. They say things like, "...she is really sensitive." or "...he has a tender heart."
The opposite of calm is hurry. If you feel like you have to hurry all the time, then you will never be calm. Also, if you feel like you have to hurry through your teaching interactions with your children then you will also have a harder time staying calm. Don't let your desire for being efficient ruin your ability to be calm. The great philosopher William Jordan said:
The first sermon in the world was preached at the Creation. It was a
Divine protest against Hurry. It was a Divine object lesson of perfect
law, perfect plan, perfect order, perfect method. Six days of work
carefully planned, scheduled and completed were followed by,--rest.
I found Character, by Samuel Smiles in ebook format for free. So cool!
Here's the link if you want to pass it along: http://www.gutenberg.org/files/2541/2541-h/2541-h.htm#2HCH0011