"I just wanted you to know that I have SO enjoyed reading your posts, I've been going through the archives and it has been so helpful.  We have started the program even though I am still a little foggy on my consequences.  I've decided to go with chores but I still need to have one in my head to give immediately.  So far, my son has not been as resistant as I thought he would be.

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"Mom, I don't remember what home looks like, but I do remember what you look like." 

This morning, my four year old son woke me up with these words.  I was amazed that in less than two weeks Porter had forgotten what our home in Tooele, Utah looked like.  He has lived in the house his whole life. 

While thinking about this statement, I realized how profound his observation was.  People forget things quickly.  They tend to feel like whatever the "NOW" feels like or looks like is what life has always been like.  This is why many people don't really notice change af

   Being over critical of things that don’t really matter, like table manners, personal grooming, age appropriate actions, and school grades tells the child that you don’t accept them for who they are or are trying to be.