Tips
Rationales that Matter
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 08/06/2008 - 05:10
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“Coming up with rationales that matter to my kids is very difficult for me! Do you have any tips on this?”
Longer Meetings?
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 08/06/2008 - 01:43
"I just thought I would mention that our meetings often go over 20 minutes but my kids still look forward to them. They love picking the family activity, they like problem solving too.
Depression and Pouting
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sun, 08/03/2008 - 06:03
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Earning Money...
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sat, 08/02/2008 - 07:17
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"Do you have a way for your kids to earn money? Could you elaborate on that?"
There was a time when we paid our children an allowance of sorts. Each child had a calendar. Their consequence for a minor offense was an X on the day of the calendar. After 5 Xs in a day, they lost their privileges for the day. Each day they automatically earned 50 cents because they were part of our family. For each X they earned, 10 cents was subtracted from the day's totals. Every Friday dad would come home with cash and the children would total their charts and report to dad fo
It's the truth!
Submitted by Nicholeen on Fri, 08/01/2008 - 04:54
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A wise friend of mine sent me this in an email.
"It is amazing how staying away from friends makes all the difference with children. WE had a week like that last week, and now the children are getting along much better. Wow, life is ever so interesting."
I think it speaks for itself, but it is a great reminder
Fights?
Submitted by Nicholeen on Thu, 07/31/2008 - 08:02
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"When your kids are fighting, do you try to instruct them in the middle of that? I often try to intervene but maybe too often - they don't seem to be learning to problem solve with each-other rather than tattling and trying to get Mom to settle things in their favor. I honestly don't know what would happen if I let my kids continue to fight until it blows over or comes to blows, I usually step in and separate them before I can see how they would solve the problem. I know they are generally out of instructional control when they are fighting, so anything I tell them at that poi
Respectful play
Submitted by Nicholeen on Tue, 07/29/2008 - 05:57
"I have an 8 year old boy and a 6 year old boy and an 18 month old girl. One of the most frustrating things for me is when I’m trying to talk to my boys and give instructions and they ignore me by rough housing with each other or by joking and laughing at each other or at me. What do you do when you ask them to do something in a kind, yet serious way, and they say “no” or laugh and joke around? I feel like they are showing no respect for me in this situation and I get very frustrated and even angry.
Getting Started
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 07/28/2008 - 18:27
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"I was just wondering, when trying to set up this type of family government for the first time, does it take several family meetings before you can actually implement it? You talk about how each meeting shouldn't be longer than 20 minutes, but if I'm understanding properly, to begin we need to talk about a family vision, come up with a mission statement, teach everyone the four basic skills (and practice them), and create a family standard...all the things seem to build on each other, so it sounds like it would take longer than twenty minutes to go through all of it properly bef
A comment
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 07/28/2008 - 05:31
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In case some of you don't look at the comments, I wanted to share this one.
"I definitely relate to this mother’s feelings. It is really overwhelming to implement this new system and I make mistakes all the time. I’m also finding that I’m less diligent as time goes on and so it helps me to read all the advice here so I can “keep swimming” and not give up. I keep thinking of your words on the CD that it takes work to set this up and we have to be willing to do the hard work. I know it is worth it. It has already made a big difference, I just need to keep trying and improving.
All at once?
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sat, 07/26/2008 - 17:05
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"I first just want to thank you for the wonderful things you do. I attended the LDSEHE conference in Virginia in May and LOVED the classes I went to from you so much that I bought your CDs. Since then, I've listened to them over and over and over trying to en-grain it into my head and heart. My question to you is this: How do you start from scratch with a houseful of kids? I have 9 kiddos ages 12 to 9 mo. They are really good kids, but I've learned that I have done then a huge injustice by the way I've been parenting them. I am ready to change and increase the love and spi
