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The number one mission
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 09/10/2008 - 04:52
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"My husband and I are listening to your CDs. We've heard you speak afew times but never got the whole thing before. Your CDs are
definitely an answer to prayer. I've tried for a long time to figure
out how to get my husband on board, but he always gets so BORED, lol!
After listening to the first CD, I realized that I'm definitely the
big dreamer/big picture/live for the moment type, and he's the line
drive/details/planner type - no wonder my efforts didn't work. I had
a big picture but no good details on how we were going to get there.
Having the CDs gives my husband
For our youth.
Submitted by Nicholeen on Thu, 09/04/2008 - 03:56
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True Story from my life: I share this story with youth when I present "Scholar Warriors ~ The Not So Secret Weapon" I will be presenting this to a group of Ogden, Utah youth tomorrow morning.
What do you do when...?
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 09/03/2008 - 05:46
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"How do you go about rewarding the kids who did not lose privileges in a way that the child who chose to lose his privileges looks at his own behavior as the cause of him missing out, instead of just feeling like mom is out to get him and wants him to be sad? Even though I try to point out how the child is the one that made the choice, I have one kid in particular that only becomes bitter about these kinds of things and feels like we are happy when he gets into trouble and doesn't get to have things. Part of this may be due to how we have handled things in the past, trying to p
Honesty
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 09/01/2008 - 16:30
"I have two boys ages 7 and 4. My 7yo has developed a couple problems: stealing and lying. I think that I/we have been making the problem worse in the way we have handled it. We also have a HUGE problem with not minding. He is a very stubborn child and will not help us when trying to come up with consequences for his actions. He says either, "I don't know" or "give me a spanking" or something like that. Those are NOT working, he seems to get worse with each consequence.
Using the Rule of Three
Submitted by Nicholeen on Tue, 08/26/2008 - 07:28
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"Another question I had was, does the rule of 3 start over for each incident? Are the 3 consequences for staying out of instructional control as relating to the first incident? I just want to make sure I understand correctly. So if a child hits his brother, and gets out of instructional control and has the consequences for that earlier in the day, and then later disobeys about something different, the rule of 3 would start over for the later incident, correct? Consequences aren't cumulative for different offenses, so that because the child got to SODAS with hitting his brothe
If it's right, it's right!
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 08/25/2008 - 05:46
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The following question and answer deals with something that many families deal with. In order to raise the kind of family that is going to reach our 20 year vision, we have to make choices that are different from the mainstream of society. These decisions are full of rewards as well as challenges. Trust me, the rewards far out-weigh the challenges.
"You mention something in the beginning of the first CD that struck me right off and I've thought about a lot ever since. "I've often felt that the Lord has chosen me to stand apart from the world."
I had been feeling the same
Tires Teach Parents
Submitted by Nicholeen on Thu, 08/21/2008 - 06:04
What tools do parents need to teach mission? There isn’t a “one size fits all” answer to this question, but I can tell you what I have learned that I need.
Recently, while on a family camp-out, I noticed that our trailer’s tires looked fairly bald. I am not real good at assessing mechanical problems, so I asked my husband if we needed to buy
Mentor Sessions change the tide.
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 08/20/2008 - 05:39
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There are many times when I feel like my children have a different vision of how the day should go than I do. They want to play around and get distracted and I want to be efficient and get lots of things done. At these times I feel like my children are miles away from where I need them to be in order to have the house run happily.
At these times I have found it very useful to take an hour and have small mentor sessions with my children. We talk about what their goals are for the day and week and we set them up a schedule. Don't forget to add some great play time after you have blocked
Great Comment
Submitted by Nicholeen on Tue, 08/19/2008 - 03:09
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Well I am back from my camping trip now, and back to my computer. I wrote a post that suggested taking a week off of the computer. I hope some of your took me up on the challenge. It is easier said than done, I realize. Someone left a great comment about the post. It is definitely worth sharing.
"Oh, I need this one! I am always trying to get something ‘done’. I can’t read right now because I’m doing the dishes, or I can’t play a game right now because I’m making lunch… the list goes on and on.
Stop Being so efficient!!!
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sat, 08/09/2008 - 17:03
Two days ago my son set up all of his little army figures in army formation and came to me and said, "Mom, will you play army with me?"
The first thought I had was, 'I can't right now, because I am trying to get this canning done.'
The second thought I had was, 'maybe I can play for just a few minutes to say that I did and then get back to the canning.'
Luckily, I didn't act upon any of those thoughts.
I looked at the army guys and looked at my son's face. I realized that army is not a fast game, and it isn't meant to be. It's meant to be a game where you figure strategy, and di
