"I've just been wondering about how to respond appropriately when my children get hurt. I don't want to be unsympathetic or cruel, but how do you respond if it's something you have pointed out they shouldn't do or they might get hurt, or they are disobeying a rule (like not running in the house or not jumping on/off furniture) and they get hurt doing it anyway? What about when they get hurt because of a sibling or other child hitting or misbehaving? What about when it's just an accident? I've noticed that around some people, children seem to try to "milk" the situation when t
Enjoy all that the children are and do. Interact a lot with them. Play! They grow too fast to waste any time. I have spent too many days trying to be "productive" in my life, and missed the really important things. I have promised myself not to do that any more. Why would I choose to miss memories and bonding, just for sleep or, getting things done on some check off list? I decided I was in charge, not some list, and I wasn't going to miss the fun any more.
This is just a thought I had today, and felt it was worth shari
A week ago, I was standing in the kitchen canning peaches, and my whole family atmosphere fell apart all around me in a matter of five minutes.
My son was asked by his father to help with something in the back yard. My son didn't want to do it, so he decided to have an attitude problem about it. My husband was stressed, and chose to get upset, instead of teach to the situation correctly. (We all have our moments of weakness from time to time.)
My daughter was supposed to be cleaning her room, and was playing her piano instead. She had lost focus. (She is ten, this happens sometime
There are some great questions in some of the recent comments.
"...Most women I know are neglecting taking care of themselves on some level (physical or spiritual) to take care of their families or other obligations. Personally, I have been struggling lately to try to find some time for myself on a daily basis for things like scripture-reading, exercise, personal study time, and maybe a nap (I’m pregnant and tired!).
Tomorrow our family has to leave early for the day. While driving the car tonight I realized that we didn't have any gas, and if we had to get gas tomorrow morning, we would probably end up running late for our appointments. So, I decided to take some time this evening to re-fuel the car.
As I was standing at the pump, I realized that I am not much different than a car. I also need re-fueling from time to time in order to be a happy, healthy mom; the kind of mom that can keep running all day. We all need a little time to re-fuel on a regular basis.
I used to take a whole day each m
"Some of my kids have developed bad habits such as finger-sucking, nose picking (and eating it), fingernail chewing, and touching their genitals. Do you have any experience or advice on helping children successfully break these kinds of habits? Some of my children have started doing such things from the time they are babies (finger-sucking), or have developed the habits a little later at around age 3 or so. And one daughter in particular seems particularly prone to this type of thing (she's eight now)."
I did have some youth who had behaviors which are not social
We close the end of each day with a prayer as a family. This is a time of reverence and quiet. Tonight my four year old son was a little bit hyper. Normally as soon as prayer begins everyone is silent and part of the moment, so we began prayer. During the prayer he started laughing and joking. He thought that he was pretty funny. This kind of behavior is considered disrespectful and is inappropriate for this time of day.
After the prayer I noticed that my son wasn't in any mood to be taught yet, so I told him to go sit on time out for a few minutes.
When he finished with time out
"On your CDs you mention coming up with three predetermined consequences--a minor consequence, a major consequence, and a big whammy, but throughout the presentations it sounded like you gave examples of more than three consequences (1-extra chore, 2-loss of snack privileges, 3-24 hours of working/no privileges, 4-SODAS, 5-major maintenance). I was a little confused since all the consequences you mentioned sounded like they were ones you had predetermined (not just ones that you'd agreed on in a family meeting to deal with other issues). Do you have more than three predetermine
"I have listened to the cd’s from your mini-seminar at our LDSEHE conference. I am so amazed at your system! I can see how it would work wonderfully in my home - especially with my 3 older children. My fourth child is turning 2 Saturday. I love her! She is so cute and so smart and very spirited. She is my first screamer squealer and it is driving me bananas! Especially in the car. I don’t feel she can be reasoned with but she does understand some of what I say. How would you recommend teaching her that screaming and squealing is not part of our vision!
"My husband and I are listening to your CDs. We've heard you speak a
few times but never got the whole thing before. Your CDs are
definitely an answer to prayer. I've tried for a long time to figure
out how to get my husband on board, but he always gets so BORED, lol!
After listening to the first CD, I realized that I'm definitely the
big dreamer/big picture/live for the moment type, and he's the line
drive/details/planner type - no wonder my efforts didn't work. I had
a big picture but no good details on how we were going to get there.
Having the CDs gives my husband