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Teenagers And Cell Phone Use: Warning!
Submitted by Nicholeen on Thu, 10/20/2011 - 00:40
A few years ago I noticed a new sign posted at our local swimming pool. The sign read, “Absolutely no cell phone use in the locker rooms!”
At first, when I saw the sign I felt like some of my rights had been taken away or something. It felt like I was being controlled.
Keeping Teens Safe: The Internet Threat
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 05/30/2011 - 00:09
“Mrs. Peck, I am afraid I can't believe in God.”
“What do you mean? How do you know?”
“I just don't do things I should do and I do some things girls my age shouldn't do...”
“What are you doing that you shouldn't do?” I asked
“I just...spend my free time with two guys I don't know...we just use facebook.
Way To Be: Optimism
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 04/20/2011 - 11:14
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“How do you maintain optimism in a depressing world? How do you teach your children to do the same?”
A Not-So-Pretend Story
[Another day of oatmeal for breakfast. I know it's healthy, but some variety in our diet would be nice. When will the bills stop coming in? Medical bills, living expenses, debts we can't pay. Don't think about the money.
“Mom, can we go to the children's museum? Mom, will you buy me a treat?”
Order at Home
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 04/26/2010 - 01:11
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One of my passions is astronomy. When I go out in my backyard and look through my telescope at my friends, the planets and stars, I feel so close to God. Not because heaven is in space, but because it is so obvious there is organization in all things. He is a God of order; with everything in it's perfect place. Everything has a purpose; a mission. Since He is order in all we see it only makes sense that people should live by order too.
Just like laws and principles govern the skies and the earth, there are laws meant to govern us as well. That is why we have chosen to apply governing rules to our home too. We feel like there is no better example of how to run a home than the way God runs our world; the current home for His family.
Our family has a set structure. We have certain meetings each week to strengthen the family relationships and keep the home in order. The meetings we have are
Happy Children Choose to be Happy
Submitted by Nicholeen on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 02:27
Nicholeen: we're doing our best to implement a system of family government following your plan. I have the 6 cd set and I've listened to them twice, and I'm reading the book as well...
...What do you do about a child who chooses to be out of instructional control forever? Just give him his 3 square meals a day, food, clothing, medical care, education, and otherwise let him be? I decided to further restrict his privileges by only letting him take one bath a day for 30 minutes maximum. (He likes to take about 6 to 8 baths a day usually.) I also will fill up his waking time with chores and SODAS, but if he refuses to do them as he is now, do I just wait him out? Keep asking him every 15 minutes if he's ready to accept consequences yet? What?
Order at Home
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sat, 11/28/2009 - 13:11
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One of my passions is astronomy. When I go out in my backyard and look through my telescope at my friends, the planets and stars, I feel so close to God. Not because heaven is in space, but because it is so obvious there is organization in all things. He is a God of order; with everything in it's perfect place. Everything has a purpose; a mission. Since He is order in all we see it only makes sense that people should live by order too.
Just like laws and principles govern the skies and the earth, there are laws meant to govern us as well. That is why we have chosen to apply governing rules to our home too. We feel like there is no better example of how to run a home than the way God runs our world; the current home for His family.
Our family has a set structure. We have certain meetings each week to strengthen the family relationships and keep the home in order. The meetings we have are
Lies. How do I know?
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sat, 02/28/2009 - 06:27
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Thanks for your post. It gave me a lot to think about. The one part I am still unsure about (and I know I just need to take it to prayer) is about treating them as if they have lied even when you just suspect it. I find myself wondering whether I am unfairly accusing or if I am wrong when I feel like I am probably being lied to. I don't want him to feel like he can't gain my trust no matter what he does and that I expect the worst from him. I don't want him to feel like he can lie and get away with it either though.
Therapy? Lying? Attention seeking?
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 02/25/2009 - 07:33
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I have one son who doesn't seem to be responding much to the changes in our family, and I am starting to worry about him. I know you have dealt with many children who have come from dysfunctional situations and maybe even need counseling. I am wondering if there is a way to tell if this child needs counseling or if I just need to continue doing what we are doing and hope that it is making a difference little by little. He is 10.
The main issues we are having with him are lying and a tendency to constantly look for and feel pity for himself. He has been difficult since the b
Separate Behaviors from People
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sun, 02/22/2009 - 06:22
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Most parents I know would say they love their children unconditionally. This unconditional love is the most powerful kind of love there is. Some Christians call this kind of love, "Christ-like Love."
Feeling love for another person in your heart is not enough to make your love unconditional. True unconditional love is a kind of love that can separate a person from his behaviors. Can you see how this definition really IS unconditional?
Parents must correct the behaviors of their children! There is no doubt about this. But, the correction of the negative behavior should never chang
Learning from the Dutch
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 12/03/2008 - 02:22
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Before the United States of America even existed, there were these colonies of many different people from different lands. One of these colonies was called New Amsterdam. The Dutch people settled this colony. They were a happy people who enjoyed life. The king of the Netherlands left the New Amsterdam colony to govern itself, and for a while they did OK. They made good roads and homes and a popular sea port. The port of New Amsterdam was one of the biggest trade centers in America.
After a while of governing themselves, and having no real rules, the citizens of New Amsterdam became
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