Four Basics/Steps + Using the Four Basics

Back Talking Cure

Question:

 

“How do you stop children from back talking?”

 

Answer:

 

Children talking back, or sassing, to their parents seems to be a behavior many children experiment with. At different phases of development feelings of independence and intelligence emerge causing kids to talk back.

 

How To Get Children To Behave

“HI Nicholeen. I have the biggest problem in implementing your method... when 
you give a consequence but they refuse to do it...???then WHAT?? I can give 
them all the jobs they "earned" but can't make them do it... WHAT then???This 
is my biggest difficulty in implementing what I think is an amazing method... 
comments? suggestions???

OT: How To Motivate Students To Learn

This might seem off topic, but I don't know if it really is.  I think having motivated students is something all parents work for.  The question was posed to me: Nicholeen, what do you do to prepare your teenage youth for academic success?  

 

On a recent conference call I went into great detail on the subject.  As a special treat I have the recording of that call to share with you today.  

 

Family Mission Statement Success: One Family's Story

For years now people have talked about making family mission statements. In books and on blogs we hear about the principles behind making a family plan and get inspired to try new things at home.

 

However, statistically most people don't actually make mission statements and use them even though they are inspired by the idea. Why?

 

11 Year Old Shares His Self-Government Resolutions

 

Eleven year old, Jacob, shares his New Years Resolutions ideas.  I recently met Jacob's family and helped them learn some self-government principles.  When I came to visit a second time he showed me his inspiring idea of how to keep himself motivated and focused on his self-government goals.  

 

Spoiled Rotten? The Christmas Cure!

Christmas gift ideas for children

Question:

 

Is it possible to spoil children at Christmas? It seems like my children never stop asking for stuff during the holidays. How do you know if your children are spoiled?”

 

Answer:

 

Sibling Rivalry Movie: Computer Fights

  Last week my post was about sibling rivalry.  Here is a movie which shows how knowing to disagree appropriately is a skill which helps sibling rivalry. 

 

This sibling rivalry solution video was filmed while I was doing some private self-government teaching for a family.  I thought the children did very well with their new skills!  It is hard to learn new stuff.  But, both children will have much more happiness now that they understand that disagreeing appropriately is for their relationsh

Sibling Rivalry: How To Stop Children From Fighting

Questions: Children Fighting

 

“Any tips on dealing with sibling rivalry? Homeschooling is not productive due to this issue.”

 

“My children seem to fight about everything. Most of the stuff is stupid, like whose turn it is to sit in the front seat, or who gets what place to watch a movie. Is this just normal sibling rivalry they will grow out of, or is this something I can fix? Please help!”

 

Is is possible to be siblings without rivalry?

 

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Great Thanksgiving Traditions: Showing Gratitude

 

Traditions establish identity. I don't know a person who isn't proud of their family traditions. Those traditions make us who we are. They teach us what “the good life” looks like and create feelings of unity and love which instill desires for more family experiences and deeper relationships. Traditions give us hope for our futures.

Dealing With Difficult Family Members?

The Question:

 

“Nicholeen, I have been working really hard at having self-government with my spouse and children, but I don't see how to have self-government with people in my extended family who are extremely difficult. Also, I am not their mother. How do you deal with difficult family members? What do you suggest?”

 

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