Are You In Crisis?
The first page of Parenting A House United says:
"Is your home in crisis? Do your children never do what they are told? Do you find yourself completely overwhelmed and hating to interact with your children? Do your children treat you with disrespect and cause contention at home? Are you out of control of your emotions as a parent too? If any of these descriptions sound like your house, then you might be in crisis and you will definitely benefit from reading this book. It is written for you.
This book is also written for people who don't want to ever have a home like I have described above and for parents who want to have an effectively communicating family right from the very beginning of parenthood."
If you consider yourself or your family in a crisis situation where you need a few quick tools to start changing things immediately at home then this post is for you. Hundreds of people have bought the book at this point and some need to start implementing things before they have even read the whole book. Below are a few key chapters to read immediately to start making some useful changes before diving in and reading the whole book.
WARNING: If you only read the Crisis Course chapters, your parenting will have big holes in it and not be permanently effective. You really need to be familiar with all of the parenting principles in the book before you see the feeling in your home change for good.
The Crisis Course:
Read Chapter 4 to give your family a reason to want to govern their own behaviors.
Read Chapter 8 to start your family government structure and for a bit about using Time-out
Read Chapters 14 and 16 for a quick track to using a family government.
Read Chapter 18 to learn some principles for staying calm.
Read Chapter 21 to learn how to teach your family the Four Basic Skills everyone should know.
Read Chapters 22-25 to learn how to enforce good behavior, correct bad behavior, and handle out of control children and teens.
This Crisis Course condenses this 30 Chapter book into a quick 10 chapters. That means if you stop at reading these 10 chapters you will only have 2/3 the principles presented in the book. So, go ahead and take the fast track to get started, but back up and read it all front to back for the full picture. In fact the chapters mentioned are so key to teaching children self-government, it won't hurt to read them again for further understanding.
For a full glimpse into the book the table of contents is below:
Table of Contents
Introduction: Crisis Course
Step One: Finding Your Family Vision
1- Teaching Self-Government
2- The Race
3- Vision, WHY?
4- Finding Vision
5- It Starts With You
6- Know Your Children
7- Inspire Mission
Step Two: Establishing a Family Government
8- Family Government
9- Family Activities
11- Love and Mercy
13- Family Standard
14- Family Economy
15- Couple’s Meetings
16- Family Meetings
17- Mentor Sessions
18- Power Struggles and Threats
Step Three: Teaching Self-Government
19- What Are We Communicating?
20- Problem Solving
21- Four Basic Skills
22- Make It Worth It—Praising
23- Getting Ready to Say Okay—Prepping
24- Correcting Bad Behaviors
25- The Rule of Three
26- Parent Counseling—For Focus
27- Straight Talk About Sex
28- Prayer—Parent Power in Action
29- Question and Answer
30- A Bumpy Road
Afterward –Spencer Speaks to Fathers